As someone that is part of a large mega-church. And who is getting ready to head off to dinner with my small group. This books (Community is Messy: The Perils and Promise of Small Group Ministry by Heather Zempel) sounds like it would be right up my alley. Reviewed by Sam Edgin over all Englewood Review of Books. (Quote is from the last 1/3 of the review)
This may be exactly what you need to jump-start your ministry. Zempel lays out solid ideas for creating a small group culture that is thriving and prepared to deal with the most uncomfortable messes Christians can conjure up. She thrives here: in fearlessly confronting what so many like to ignore – that its probably more difficult to live the right way with a bunch of other Christians than it is to do just about anything else. As the Church is corporately beginning to dance with a Christian life that acknowledges its problems and flaunts its failures, perhaps Zempel is just the voice needed to help construct realistic discipleship.