Takeaway: Can we really know someone who does not want to be known?
It has been about two decades since I read James McBride’s breakout book about his mother, The Color of Water. Kill ‘Em and Leave is the first book of McBride’s I have read since then. Like Color of Water, McBride is a character in this sort of biography of James Brown. Half of the book is really about how hard it is for anyone, including McBride, to really understand James Brown.
Throughout Kill ‘Em and Leave, McBride recounts his interviews with the people who knew, worked for, loved, and were harmed by James Brown. There is little gloss here. James Brown was a musical genius and a nearly impossible person to be around. Those who stayed with him the longest were those who were willing to do what he said. If you ate with James Brown, you ate what he ate, and only what he ate. If you worked for him, you did what he said. If you played for James Brown, you showed up on time, played what he wanted, and supported Brown as the star.
But McBride also captures the importance of James Brown as a cultural figure for the African American community. There are a ton of stories about children just wanting to see a famous Black man who owned a plane and radio stations and said, “I’m Black, and I’m proud.”
This is important to McBride as well. McBride identifies with Brown in some ways. Kill ‘Em and Leave was partly written because McBride needed to write a book. He was broke after a divorce. He was living in a small NYC apartment. McBride has had big hits, but at 55, he was starting over again, similar to Brown. And McBride has no problem identifying the aspects of Brown’s life that were impacted by racism.
However, the biggest image of Kill ‘Em and Leave was of a man who was unable or unwilling to be known. His best marriage was his first as a young man before becoming a star. But she didn’t want to travel with him and didn’t like his philandering while he was traveling. Their divorce was about their different goals, more than a lack of love, and they stayed close throughout his life. His musicians were around him, and he owed much to their musical influences to his sound. But even those who were around him longest didn’t claim to really know him. Some of them didn’t want to talk about him. Many of them continue to live (or died) in poverty.
Summary: An ambassador, Genly Ai, attempts to bring the planet Winter, into Ekumen (an intergalactic United Nations). 






