Takeaway: It is really many stories of divorce (her own and those in her family) followed by an almost accidental discovery of an actually happy marriage (so far).
Marriage is both overly prized and distained in our culture. Some think it can do anything, so think it can do nothing. Some people think both.
Patchett wrote this essay for a friend. Her young friend wanted the story of Patchett’s happy marriage. And Patchett does seem to have a happy marriage by her account. She has been married about 11 years to a man she adores and who seems to be right for her and she for him.
Patchett starts not with meeting her husband the how they fell in love and got married and lived happily ever after, but with the story of many divorces in her family. Staring with her grandfather who came to the US and worked for 10 years before saving enough money to send for his family. When his wife wrote back that she wanted to come, but that she had to tell him that there were now three boys instead of two, he rescinded the offer and never saw his family again (even refusing to see the son that came to find him later in life.)

Takeaway: Outsiders can sometimes see us better than we can see ourselves.
Takeaway: A classic western that was actually set only a couple decades ago.
Takeaway: Jesus did not love in some abstract ethereal way. He loved the people around him personally, physically and in a very human manner.


Takeaway: “We have been told our entire lives that we should be leaders…but the truth is that the greatest way to create a movement is to be a follower and to show others how to follow. Following is the most underrated form of leadership in existence.”